Being at the beck and call of some friends had been the way my relationship with them were always but not until about a month ago when I realized that I don’t need to be at their beck and call at the expense of my own family and work. I really loved helping people out but some friends are terrible, they only want you to be around for them when they need you and at other times, they completely ignore you. So this subservient relationship that I have with some friends need to stop completely and it did, I hope I can continue to be strong and do what is right by myself instead of trying to please other people. Life has to be more worthwhile than this.
I envy those couples who makes a big deal about their anniversary unlike the spouse, he doesn’t think it’s so important. But like every woman, we loved to keep tab of how many years we’ve been together and all the good and bad things we’ve been thru’ together. Well, an anniversary gift is not a bad idea either but I’ve always had trouble with Anniversary gift ideas because the spouse has just about everything and those that he wants – I don’t know how to get for him – so instead each year I would ask him what he wants and then he can go get it for himself.
This year however, I insisted that I get wined and dined for our anniversary because I refused to not celebrate all the years that I had been with him. You know it’s hard work being with a man who is not home all the time and I have to fend for myself and the kids! so yes, he better buy me a huge anniversary gift this year too! Some music would be nice and dancing too.
Flew up to be with the spouse in Vancouver for the weekend and went for some exotic fruity tutti drinks at the food court and kinda reminded me of my teenage years when I am so ready to try out everything and anything. Never did I think I would be so far away trying out exotic drinks for someone with such humble beginnings. I’m grateful for a wonderful spouse who keeps me happy and gives me just about everything I want and need. I cannot ask for more but more time to watch my children grow up.
This weekend in Vancouver we saw some pretty exciting exhibitions and I went to museum of vancouver and saw the Maraya Project exibit and shopping at Metrotown Mall at Burnaby plus a quick run to the China town in Vancouver for some chinese medicinal herbs for the kids – to boil soup for them when they come home from college. Overall, it was a great trip – wished we had more time that’s all.
Jumped on the plane last minute and went to be with the spouse who was in Vancouver for the week for business. So I joined him there in the L’ Hermitage Hotel – well known for being one of the best hotels in Vancouver and they are not wrong at all. The L’Hermitage Hotel is also a service apartment for long staying guest and those who are staying for at least a week, all the rooms are said to be suite rooms. The hotel has its own personal concierge or door man door and the dog has its own business card – very cute although some people may not think the same.
They say you pay for what you get – and the Petite Boutique room was what the spouse’s company paid for, the staff were friendly and the hotel was quite spotless and within walking distance to all the important places that a visitor from another province would want to explore. I also enjoyed the breakfast and the Italian restaurant within the hotel and the 15% discount on the bill as a hotel guest. Highly commendable of the L’Hermitage Hotel is the staff tries to learn your name and address you according making you feel very special. I did have a great weekend at the L’Hermitage and the room rates were really good for a downtown hotel in Vancouver – about $200 – $250 – definitely better than the Hyatt Toronto that we were at a few months ago.
First it was the son and now the daughter wants me to take a look at some Overloud Guitars after watching the youtube video above. She said “see mom! I can do that too, if i get one of those guitars!” Well, you know me – I’m just an old fart and don’t know much about guitar – but hey ! after watching the video – I kinda have to agree with her about the guitar – but you need some skills too right? So the daughter showed me what she could do with her brother’s and I have to agree once again that she could use a better guitar. Now time for shopping for an overloud guitar but wait a minute I need to find out what is the price before saying yes – you know how crafty kids can get – just to get what they want.
Interesting find since we were looking to do our basement floors again this summer and these basement carpet tiles may just be the way to go. Apparently, you don’t need to hire someone to do it and it’s cheap enough to get. So if you pay your teenager some money to help you for the day, you are all set and you can get a new basement floor for cheap. And they have basement carpets too – if you are looking to do carpets – this is really exciting for me because I may be able to do it on my own without any help. Now the spouse has no excuse for not letting me get new floors for the basement.
And I do like this garage floors too – maybe we can think of doing our garage floors as well.
I asked myself constantly why should I get so upset when a friend’s husband is cheating on her and they are in the midst of a divorce. Many a times I feel like going online and screaming at the woman and the cheating husband because my friend is so timid and the cheating husband is telling everyone that she is at fault because she wanted a kid. Yes, very selfish, uncalled for and truly an asshole but what has all these gotta do with me right? why should I get so upset and in fury about it. Am I too involved, too emotional – or have too much time on hand (definitely not) so what is this have to get involved and meddle with other people’s business? I really have to learn to mind my own business and be a good friend and just listen to what my poor friend wants to do instead of giving suggestions and fueling the fire and thus hurting her and on the other hand – I definitely need to lay off on doing good for people – and instead concentrate on my own family and myself. Haven’t I learned my lesson many a times by now – the spouse asked me the other day.
So we gotten ourselves free day pass to a local gym for a month – promotional event for the local gym trying to get the folks staying nearby to join the gym I’m guessing. So a few of my friends and I decided to check it out afterall, we had passed by the gym every morning when we had gone to get our coffee and some of the people exercising sure looks good enough to bite! haha! Yes, the men there sure have some toned bodies and muscles – we figured that some must be using testosterone supplement , else no ordinary people would have muscles like them.
The free day pass to the gym of course was a chance for the sales people to try and meet new people and to get us to join the club for a year or maybe 2. I do like their programs offered and I especially liked that one can hire a personal trainer to work with you at a time convenient to you but the sales people should really loosen up and not be so aggressive on the first day when we visited. Some of my girlfriends were quite shocked at how these sales folks hover over us the entire hour we were there. We didn’t end up signing up as members but that doesn’t mean that we cannot go back and see those eye candies for the rest of the month.
We had wanted to go to the Teahouse in Stanley Park but ended up in a pre-opening of a club in downtown Vancouver because the girlfriend’s PR company was involved in the pre-opening launch. Not a drinker but have you seen such big bottle of alcohol anywhere except for pre-openings and launching of a club and a pretty famous one I heard.
Since we are old farts and wasn’t going to stay out for too late – and the pre-launched only started at 10pm – you can imagine how tired I was by the time we got back to the hotel. Those days where we stayed up late till the morning and then eat breakfast and go home and shower and back to work is definitely over. Can’t say we are not getting on with age now – can we? We had a great time though, catching up and seeing models and eye candies everywhere, too bad the husbands didn’t come – but 10 – 12 over the hill women together can get quite noisy and crazy.
It had been so long since we owned a summer cottage by the sea and the market seems to be right for buying one, so here we go again – the spouse said – as we went from one to another looking for the right one with the right price to invest in. I loved the look of this one – the furniture looked amazing and we can add a few more rustic dining tables that would make a perfect cottage for us in the summer. Currently they are using some glass dining tables but it really has potential even though they don’t have as much room as we would like. But I do love the wood they have around the cottage making it look so warm and cozy, so just a few more rustic furniture and we are all ready to move in if the spouse agrees to buy it. The children loved that the beach is but 5 mins away and I do like that it is away from town but not too far.