I’m using the general term Chinese – for all Asians and American for all those not in Asia – as in Canada, Europe and even Saudi Arabia because when one thinking of marry overseas – people usually think about a Chinese marrying an American. I don’t know about others who got married to Westerners but I do have a relatively good life here – I have a spouse who takes care of the money aspect of the house and raising of the kids. The kids and I always have food on the table, we travel quite often and I have to say that I don’t really need to worry about superstitions and tradition that I would have to endure and carry on for the sake of being a Chinese.
Everything is very nontraditional here, even my in-laws don’t expect anything out from us nor do they need for me to cook for them or clean after them. I do not have to smile if I am upset with my relatives here nor do I need to be subservient because I’m the wife or woman at home, I speak whatever that is in my mind and my spouse don’t stop me from saying or doing anything.
Of course, marry overseas can be very hard emotionally and the food aspect can be a hard part too – you do not get the traditional food that you want from home no matter how you try to cook them yourself. As for our love life and sex life – the Western man is definitely more sensitive and don’t demand nor expect you to perform like a sex slave. The appreciate you when you are in bed with them and they are grateful that you are bearing their kids (but this is from my own biased experience). Overall, my experiences had been good – but I’ve heard other stories as well, so don’t just judge the book by its cover because every book has a different story.