No I wasn’t in Italy – but the spouse was there and we had skype one morning while he was having breakfast and getting ready to go for a meeting with an associate. People asked me all the time about this long distance relationship we have and I’ve often wondered myself how in the world did I survived. Was it because I trust the spouse so much and have no worries that he is not here all the time or is it because the children occupies all my time? or I’m so confident about myself – there is no way he would stray and that I’m so good that no other woman would interest him intellectually and emotionally?
The children does take up a lot of my time but they are all almost old enough to take care of themselves and when they were younger I couldn’t just leave them with nannies or their grandparents – it’s just not in my upbringing and I loved my kids too much. As for being so intellectual – or good in bed – I doubt so – so how do we survived? I think it’s because he is a good person – and I don’t think he would do anything to hurt the family plus I think he too is too busy with work to even make an effort to woo another woman – afterall, you and I know that wooing a woman takes time and money.
Is the art of a relationship about trusting the spouse ? I don’t think that is enough – as an expat wife, one should always keep track of what the spouse is doing and where he is. As an expat wife, you should always be independent, you have to be smart, you have to know how to take care of yourself besides the family. Never leave all your finances to your spouse because you never know if something does happen – you will be able to take care of yourself. Always stay on top of what your spouse is doing and his work as well – and don’t forget his friends and co-workers. And since my spouse travels so much for work, I try not to complain so much when we do talk – of course, that does not mean that you don’t tell him anything but you just have to time it right – when he is home.
I’ve seen men traveling for business in another country straying and having a another life altogether when they are on business – so once in a while you have to drop everything and go where the spouse is – or be in contact with the concierge there. Lucky for me, being in the hotel industry for 15 years, I’m still very much in contact with some concierge internationally. As expat wife, you have to have your antennae up all the time – yet not let the spouse see that you have your feelers up – a very tricky situation but even after being married for ages, I never let my guard down, I’m on top of things all the time.
It’s funny how a simple dessert that I’m used to having since I was a kid is so missed by me – now that I’m staying abroad. Never did I ever think that I won’t be having this dessert at anytime I want. My kids don’t like soy anything at all even though I tell them it taste great and silky but they refused to try it at all. They say the texture is just too squishy to enjoy – I guess they are like any American kid who loved their burgers and meat.
I remember when I was young and my parents would send us out in the evening with a bowl in our hands and 50 cents to buy a big bowl of Tao Foo Fa for my grandparents to enjoy. We would not have any till my grandparents and aunts had enough – what a difference with this generation. Our kids are always taken care of first and the adults later and even though things were quite different for us when we were kids – it sure beats eating just burger and fries. The Asian culture is way too rich to ignore.
I’m looking to get one of this coffee maker machine – for home but I would have loved to get one of those that grinds the coffee bean just before it drips the coffee. I have been hunting for the same machine I had in my office – but never could find it here – what a shame. The reason why I want a coffee maker is because I don’t want to get a big breakfast from Mac’s just because I want a coffee in the morning – that spoils my entire meal intake entirely.
But for almost $200 after tax – I wonder if it would be a good splurge? because my doctor had told me that coffee may be the cause of some health issues – like palpitation of the heart. As much as I would love to get it – I still think that I need my 3-in-1 tea from home – so would it be crazy to get an elite keurig coffee maker? I have to check on the sugar content and also the calories for each K-cup before buying it – but I am going to make up my mind really soon – instead of looking at the machine for so many times – the spouse thinks I’m crazy doing that instead of just buying it. Oh btw, this machine makes coffee, tea and hot cocoa.
I didn’t know that KFC had waffles for breakfast – but the spouse who was in Chicago last week – had this in his beach house apartment that the company rented for him. It’s funny to see him try and get some sun – while eating his breakfast – he said it wasn’t that fun. I can see why – I feel extremely bad for him – but what can we do right? work has to be done and he had to travel without us.
We used to travel a lot for work and the wife misses her hotel breakfast, so once in a while, I’ll make this anything goes omelet for her. Just a change of taste and different food for her and soemtimes, we have this for a late nite supper. Unlike what she was used to in Asia, she can get food in the middle of the night from the hawker center just a few minutes walk away. If given a choice, I think she would have prefer to have dim sum instead or some chilli crab.
Omelets are easy to make and you can put anything you like into it and flip it after it is cooked and you are all done. We used a good wok, so no oil is need and it doesn’t stick onto the wok too. I recommend Tfal because Meyers doesn’t seems to last too long. Our investment in a good Tfal was the best decision we made getting a wok.
