Met up with one of my girlfriend who recently was separated from her husband. Well, I shouldn’t really say recently for it had been about 1.5 yrs now and as much as I would love to continue supporting her, it’s now getting a little tiring for me. Because I think I’ve overextended myself in the attempt to make her feel less lonely on her own – so that she wouldn’t make the wrong decision to go back to her ex.
I have included her in everything I do from work to leisure and I think it’s time to let go now – and let her soar on her own. I haven’t been spending too much time with my own kids and spouse because of her – not her fault but I think I was overly helpful and although the spouse hasn’t said anything yet, I think I should now let go a little and let her be her own person.
So we sat down for a cup of coffee and carrot cake and talked for a bit and I told her a little white lie that I am going to be quite busy in the following weeks. So hopefully, she will find things to do on her own and learn to be stronger without me. I will always be there for her but it’s time to let go a little.
I can cooked but I cannot bake even if my life depended on it, so I leave the baking to friends and extended family and if all else fail – I buy them from the store preferably from Farmer’s Market and pretend that they are home made. Of course, I don’t lie about it because everyone knows that I don’t bake and I am not good at measuring flour or sugar or anything else that is needed. But ask me to cook, and I’m all for it. My girlfriends and in laws tell me all the time that I should take up some baking classes and after many years of persuading i decided that I should – so here’s to me taking up baking classes, wish me luck now – and I hope I don’t poison anyone in the meantime – hahah!
My first moon cake for this year – yums!
We BBQ a lot during the summer and the best part of it all is, we can invite just about anyone for the BBQ. The spouse and I loved to mix our friends, he invites some of his and I invite some of my girlfriends and they get to mix around and make new friends. The kids gets to invite some of their friends as well and they loved that they get to hang out as long as they want or they can just do whatever they desire, it’s a pretty easy day. Most times, we ask people not to bring anything but they usually do, like desserts and salad or fruit trays but on one special occasion, one of the guys from the spouse’s work place brought Swisher Sweets to celebrate his first born. I don’t mind cigars but I absolutely dislike cigarettes – I think cigar are sweet smelling but cigarettes just smells like burnt wood. This year we already had quite a few BBQ gatherings, at the end of summer, we are going to have our little firework in our backyard and lots of sparklers for the kids around the neigborhood.
I couldn’t bake anything if I had to save myself – yes, I’m just too scared to fail – so my mom thinks. But I came across something really easy to bake and it’s from home (asia), so when no one was home today, I decided to give it a try and it turned out pretty good. In fact, the kids and the spouse loved it so much – I baked another one in the evening. So lesson learned here – never try you never know.
They say the way to the man’s heart is thru’ his tummy – so when we were kids, my mom and grams used to encourage us to learn how to cook. They say once you know how to cook, you will keep your spouse happy and at home and he won’t be out looking for other woman or her cooking. If only it was that simple right? I may not cook the food that the spouse like but I sure make good home made ice – cream that he cannot resist.
I loved Gumdrop cakes ! they are awesome to eat and a treat to the eyes and they are very easy to make. The very first cake I learned to bake was a gumdrop cake, a friend from college taught me how to do it. This Christmas, I’m making some for friends and family – so I’m starting early and as soon as Christmas is over – the family and I are heading to Mauritius Island for a few days.
Someone said to me the other day that friendship is like a cupcake. You want it to be pretty, you want it to be sweet- but not too sweet. You would loved it everyday but if you eat it everyday – you will get tired of it and once you eat it – you are satisfied for the moment and sometimes you remember this friendship but most times you just shit it out.
Not many people survived the trial of friendship and if you have friends who are pretty much deep down inside you know cannot really depend on till the very end – do you still try your best to be good friends to him and her? I loved my online friendship but you and I know that it’s not worth getting so closed right? Most people want to make you of your popularity online – and for folks like me who pretty much keeps to herself – I don’t get many online friends but real friends and my real friends are known as friends because they have known me for years now and wouldn’t pull any stunt with me. Online friendship are hard to keep unless – the other party don’t go crazy on you first. I loved myself too much – and even though I like my cupcakes – I don’t fancy them as much.
Inspired by an old favorite – I’m going to do something similar for my kid’s teachers and class this Christmas – wish me luck! oh i have to clarify – no I’m not doing cake – I’m doing like a candy jar – and some cookies in them. Pretty easy – but to find the time to do it. These days – I seems to have a lot on hand.
Usually we dined at Pete’s Place at the Grand Hyatt because we have a long time friend who works there as the Sommelier – in fact, we met him when he was working in Paris in a tiny cafe there while he did his course in Hospitality industry. Although his interest was in food and wants a Chef or Head Cook Jobs for the future – he ended up being so interested in wine that he is now a Sommelier in the Grand Hyatt. But during his off days, we prefer to go to small cafes out of the city and play catch up.
This chic cafe was recently opened but the chef was definitely talented because we had the most tasteful dessert one can find – and it’s so reasonably priced that we’ve decided to make our weekly rest and relax session here. The coffee, a mexican brand was pretty strong but I loved my coffee this way. I’ve always kept in contact with the people I used to work with in the hospitality industry and am glad that I keep in touch with them because they know exactly where to bring you for the best kind of dessert.
We don’t get many talented chefs or pâtissier around town but in the city, where jobs are a plenty – and if you know your way around – you can get very good desserts and food. So if you have a friend in the hospitality industry – keep in touch with them – you never know when you will find a gem like I did every now and then.